MARRIAGE / Relationships: Delays and Marriage Quality, Issues & WHY delays help in many cases

MARRIAGE: DLEAYS, Issues and Related Recommendations

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This is a HUGE topic and let me try to address this as much quickly as possible and as objectively as possible. The RIGHT question to ask an astrologer is NOT “When will my marriage happen”. The right question is “When I should or I should not marry”! That is the right usage of astrology and an astrologer. The answer you or your parents might not like and they will find another astrologer who will suggest a POOJA and Yagnya and some “Wiwaah” with a tree etc. Despite Aishwarya having 2 serious broken relationship again some wiwaah was done with some tree (I heard – I have NO clue if they did this.) Her chart showed younger guy (7^th Mangal), Dhanu Shukra Rahu Chandra), Abhishek Chart showed older/more matured lady (7^th Shani) and Uchcha Shukra. Anyways – let’s not change the subject. :)

Marriage Quality, Partner Quality: Personality or Appearance, Age etc: in D1 (Lagna-Kundali) Check following.

(1)    The 7^th house planets (BHAAV),

(2)    The owner of the 7^th house (BHAAVESH), and

(3)    KAARAK Graha SHUKRA.

All these 3 need to be checked for marriage – SAADHAK-BAADHAK thoughts (360 degrees thinking).

Also add secondary and supplementary stuff when D1 is non-committal and shaky with mixed signals!

(1)    7^th house from Chandra in D1

(2)    NABVAMANSH Kundali

a.     L7 from D1 – How it is in D9

b.     Shukra in D9 how it is

c.      How D9 itself is with above (3) things mentioned for D1

SHANI drushti on any of the above 3 shows delays.

(1)    Means Shani in 1 5 7 10 houses shows delays in marriages – or rather “recommends” delays in marriages.

(2)    WHY? Shani drushti is on the house which contributes greatly to hormonal make-up of a person and overall hormonal progress, pace of progress and quality etc.

(3)    So, this being slow – common sense is to delay the marriages. Else, you are trying to get fruit out of a tree which is just about to churn out flowers.

(4)    The same is applicable when SHANI drushti is on L7th and SHUKRA and L7 from Chandra also. More the drushti collection – means SHANI drushti on 7^th and also L7 and also Shukra or all of the 3 would only start adding further delays. At times it is seen at 32 34 or even 36 or a person marrying very late for companionship and might not be for kids or a typical “traditional marriage”.

NOW – Women have speedier hormonal changes & physical changes than men.  So this “delay” is not same for men and women, Usually for women it is 25+ and for Men 29+.

WAKRI STUFF & URANUS Impact:

When 7^th house planets or L7 or SHUKRA is wakri or combination of these 3 – then THE FIRST choice of the person goes wrong & they correct themselves eventually. This could happen with boyfriend (Wakri Mangal for Aishwarya) etc or actual marriage for a traditional family. Some traditional women would LIVE with this arrangement forever! Some modern families would walk out etc. So again, later marriage gives enough maturity – as YOUR definition of what your spouse should be changes at certain age - -again 25/26 for women and 29.30 for men. & you start looking at the same spouse with different criteria!! UNFAIR to everyone!!!

URANUS wakri with Shani or in drushti of Shani or Wakri Uranus opposite Wakri Shukra in intense nakshatra or opposite to L7 also can cause real weird people coming in touch with hiding information (missing lung or some operation or spot on skin somewhere etc). some information comes at the 11^th house before marriage or just before engagement etc etc.

INTENSE DEGREES:

(1)    If BHAVARAMBH of 7^th house o L7 or SHUKRA is in intense degrees – there is tremendous intense bad past karma. So this life those contacts try to come in touch and give troubles to you.

SO, WHAT IS THE USE OF DELAYS:

(2)    Delays ensures that “A hurt B in the past birth” and now “B would hurt A” does not continue! So this bad kaarmic link is broken forever due to delays. SHANI likes delays and most times one has choice to delay. These contacts can’t just hang around to hurt you – they have their further destiny and kaarmic connections to fulfill.

a.     Disclaimer: If you have been TOO NASTY in the past birth – this is unavoidable

(3)    HOWEVER, they will keep coming every 7.5 years to try to trouble you. THIS IS A LOADED statement coming thru case studies.! Some hurtful contact tries in year X and again they come back in some form now a days FB and whats app etc etc at X+8^th year and X+15^th year again.

(4)    INTENSE degrees L7 or Shukra can even show mentally unstable, inefficient or physical different priorities or lifestyle priorities person coming touch – forced in India for marriages due to social pressure. Happens lesser in the west *now a days*. So delays ensures that these people also move on. (had some case studies where I asked the girl to ensure the boy has physical needs—and turned out he had different lifestyle choice – did not share earlier due to pressure.)

a.     A Well-known example: of SHUKRA in last degrees of ASHLESHA for Karishma.

Does everyone have this choice – Might not! As too much of a bad past karma would result in some planetary formation which would get you into a relationship. Like Mangal Shukra Yuti and Mangal drushti on Shukra & Shukra Rahu yuti and so on. These compulsive action-oriented formations make one eager to get in to something. Mangal Shukra overrides hormonal issues of badly placed 7^th house and hence the person is physically ready and eager for marriage or relationship but then it becomes a problem due to intense past karma.

REMEDY:

1^st Step is Awareness: THAT is WHERE Astrologers come in picture!! Early detection and early life analysis would show you such issues and quality of marriage life and why so etc etc explanation by a neutral astrologer who isn’t trying to do fear mongering for expensive shaanti and pooja. Pay astrologers well for analysis and logic so they do not have to sell you poojas unless absolutely necessary!!

2^nd Step:  Acknowledge: To God, to Nature, to the souls you might have hurt (astrologer could give you a good idea where the direction could be - -at times it is within the family with maternal or paternal cousins itself!!)

3^rd Step: Saying sorry repentance to the souls impacted – not all might have been reborn and they are listening to you! :)

4^th Step: Dong good KARMA with the institution of marriage itself in general and specific to people who you might have affected (specific to the chart).

As you can see earlier you begin for you begin for your kids – good karma can turn-around some souls or at least allow you to SPOT and “sense” and realize” the patterns of “incorrect” people or “situations” etc etc. SWOT analysis of kid’s chart never hurt as long as the astrologers are not putting some INCEPTION and WORRIES in your head. Not to dilute the message but look to it from opportunity to pay back by good deeds and not by suffering.

P.S. At times we need to be practical also – and not nitpick stuff. A friend of mine said to another one jokingly – it is better to be divorced at the age of 34 than not married at all! So these delays and related aspects are imp and can change here and there as per community norms and society norms but bring careful never hurt anyone. Some background checks or direct question to the prospects in person without offending or in front of everyone (ego!) would only help. Give astrologers a chance to help you by NOT asking tthem to SOMEHOW match the charts by pooja or donations and some MAGICAL REMEDIES! :) Again, it is about extreme charts - -you should also question astrologer as to WHY it is bad – just one Mangal in 7 or 8 or – Shukra in 6^th alone etc can’t be a reason to make people afraid.